Missionary Coach

  We see things as we are - our experiences, our beliefs, our traditions and our insecurities. All of these things play into how we think and ultimately how we feel and act. This happened to me. I had booked a speaker for a large event. I was excited and had told others about it. Then this morning I got on the speaker's website to get bio information and a picture for advertising and noticed that my event was not on the calendar and a different event was scheduled for that day instead! I was sure this speaker had double booked and that I would be getting the shaft! I was stressed. I was placing blame. I wasn't sure how to proceed.  I sent an email to the presenter noting that we were not on the event schedule and asked for clarification (the whole time assuming that we wouldn't be able to have her at our event). Even though I didn't mean to, I'm sure the presenter could feel my frustration because I was frustrated when I wrote the email. She emailed back that her we

  Photo by Jakob Owens on Unsplash We want to be the perfect parent for our kids. We don't want to screw them up. We put a lot of effort into helping them succeed.  We watch them grow up and it is rewarding, some of the time. And some of the time it is hard. Sometimes they do things that we don't want them to. Sometimes we do things that they don't want us to. What our kids don't always understand is that as parents, we are still learning how to grow up too.  We don't have everything figured out yet.  But we do everything we can do to help them succeed. It is one of our greatest desires. So why is parenting so hard sometimes? Because it is supposed to be. It is how we keep growing and becoming better people. It is true that even though we are supposed to know how to parent, we really don't sometimes. And one of the best things we can do for our kids is to be willing to admit that to them. It is a game changer. They stop accusing us, and we stop pretending we ha

  I'm going to tell you the secret... Our spirits want to grow! We can't take that out of our nature. Our physical bodies want to do as little as possible to get by. We can't take that out of our nature. Somewhere in the middle we live. That is the nature of earth life. So, where is JOY? Right in the middle of all the pain and stress. We are not meant for constant joy or constant pain. SO, HERE'S THE SECRET to growth...you ready?? Adopting the mindset that  " I AM MEANT FOR GROWTH". The contrast of our humanness and our spirits is where the growth happens.  AND we are most happy when we pay attention to the growth that our spirit wants. All that laziness that our human side believes is so good, really puts our spirit into a slump. Understanding that we are here to have the experience of our bodies and that we are also given what we need to be the master of physical appetites is key to letting our spirit take the lead. I love thinking that I AM MEANT FOR GROWTH

Here is my take... Black lives matter! For sure. I love my black friends. They are wonderful people and they matter to me so much!! It is not in my nature to be part of a protest and so I have refrained from joining a group in the street, mostly because of the feeling of violence and hate that can be in those settings. The feeling of division and fight is not something that I am comfortable being around. So I share on my blog instead. You know what I know? I know that Jesus Christ loved and welcomed all people. He walked through Samaria. He blessed the Gentile woman who begged for His help. He dined with those who were haughty and humble. He saw each one as worthy of His love. I am trying to be like Jesus Christ. I know that I am a white woman living in a mostly white community. I know that I may have prejudices, and I'm trying to discover where I may need to change. I sincerely want to love as Jesus does. I see a need for change in our world. I listened to two con

If the world had a reset button, it could be named COVID-19. Modern living has become very efficient. We are blessed with so many conveniences. But then COVID-19 comes and removes all sports, vacations, schools, dining out, movies, shopping, work (for some), visiting friends and family, and even going to the dentist, what do we have left? We have our families and lots of time. Hasn't there been times when this is what you wanted? A chance at doing nothing for a while? In reality, we are not made for stagnation. We are made for progression. Here's a few interesting questions to ask yourself to help you not be stagnant during this time: With so much being taken away, what is one thing I've thought of doing someday that I could try now? (Don't say I don't know. Make your mind find an answer. Or ask yourself, what if I did know?) What is one really great thing I can be doing with my time right now? What could even be better than that? Answer these

We all probably feel a little uneasy right now. There is so much unknown. Our minds spin out on the unknown.  But how can we stop our endless worry? First take a quick inventory of what is created within you when you are spinning in worry. There's probably some inner tension, impatience with one another, anxiousness, lots of mindless buffering...just to name a few. But what if you don't want this to be your life for the next who-knows-how-long? Here's a few tips to help you feel more peace: 1. Write down all your worried thoughts. Writing them down stops them on the paper. Get them all out. Read them and try to see them as options of things to think about but definitely not necessary . Sometimes it feels necessary to think them so we can avoid pain in the future. But really worrying incessantly is just bringing all that possible future pain into today. It isn't useful or fun. 2. Choose to do something within your control that helps someone